You have to admit, its compulsive viewing! It’s my guilty pleasure, I watch it religiously at least once a week – even if it’s a repeat! The reality TV series Don’t Tell the Bride became so popular that it is now in its 7th series, sponsored by DoneDeal, it has us on tenterhooks as the grooms get given £12,000 to make their bride’s dream weddings come true. They have only three weeks to plan everything without any input from their other half! For the majority of weddings I’ve been to the bride has organised everything, from the table decorations to the favours – hence the show is so successful, watching the men with different levels of organisational ability try to organise to the same standards as their future wives!
It occasionally features gay couples, but usually the arrangement is that the groom is given the £12,000 to execute his fiancée’s dream wedding. The bride is not allowed to be involved in any of the preparation, therefore when it comes to the end of the three weeks, the groom presents her with a ceremony and party entirely of his own enterprise. Its structure is openly geared towards conflict: as the groom is filmed making decisions about booking the venue or hiring the inflatable marquee, booking the live quartet, and not to mention buying the dreaded dress.
The wedding is all about the bride and the person she is marrying. Traditionally, it was more about the bride, but that’s changing. More and more grooms are wanting to be involved in their wedding and why not! The day is for both of you to enjoy as it is the start of your new married life together.
What are secret marriages?
If you don’t fancy your wedding being splashed all over the BBC then have you ever thought about the idea of having a secret marriage! Sounds exciting right? Many couples throughout the ages have had secret marriages and there are several types that you can choose from;
- A civil secret marriage is a marriage that is not revealed to family and friends.
- A judicial secret marriage is one held before a judge, in a closed court session and this particular type of marriage is only allowed in some areas, so check with your local court before you go marching down there, tiara to boot!
So why do some couples choose to have their marriage like this? It could be argued that it solves many family issues, money problems, or that some people just want the privacy of a ceremony involving only them and their partner.
What is the secret to a happy marriage?
Marry someone you love exactly as they are, and be sure they feel the same.Then you’ll never expect more of each other than you are each happy to give. Another secret? Don’t get married until you’re sure of who you are, you can’t possibly love someone fully if you don’t love yourself first.
The Daily Mail showed an American study that produced some interesting results, they said that the secret to a happy marriage is kissing and saying ‘I love you’ 10 times a week and going on three dates a month! The detailed study of 1,000 wedded Americans also found three surprise romantic gestures and 10 deep and meaningful conversations each month are key to a harmonious relationship. It is ideal to have at least three shared hobbies and interests as well as going on two vacations a year, they are just some of the requirements for romantic bliss.
Top ten points:
If nothing else, try and remember that no one’s perfect, not even you! So you need to learn to love them for both their perfections and imperfections, and most importantly enjoy being together and have fun falling deeply In love. Here’s some top tips that you should keep in the back of your mind in order to make your marriage work:
1. Accepting each other’s faults
4. Respect each other
5. Support each other
6. Being able to apologize
7. Being kind
8. Saying ‘I love you’
9. Spending quality time together
10. Give and take on both sides